"O' my daughter ! You are about to leave the home in which you grew up, where you first learned to walk, to go to a place you do not know, to be a companion with whom you are unfamiliar. By marrying you, he has become a master over you, so be like a servant to him, and he will become like a servant to you.
Take from me ten qualities, which will be a provision and a reminder for you:
The first and second of the are:
Be content in his company, and listen to and obey him, for contentment brings peace of mind, and listening to and obeying one's husband pleases Allah, the All Glorious, All-Merciful.
The third and fourth of the are:
Make sure that you smell good and look good; he should not smell anything but a pleasant smell from you.
The fifth and the sixth of them are:
Prepare his food on time, and keep quite when he is asleep, for raging hunger is like a burning flame, and disturbing his sleep will make him angry.
The seventh and eighth of the are:
Take care of his servants (or employees) and children, and take care of his wealth, for taking care of his wealth shows that you appreciate him, and taking care of his children and servants shows good management.
The ninth and tenth of the are:
Never disclose any of his secrets, and never disobey any of his orders, for if you disclose any of his secrets you will never feel safe from his possible betrayal, and if you disobey him, his heart will be filled with hatred towards you.
Be careful, O'my daughter, of showing joy in front of him when he is upset, and do not show sorrow in front of him when he is happy."
Take from me ten qualities, which will be a provision and a reminder for you:
The first and second of the are:
Be content in his company, and listen to and obey him, for contentment brings peace of mind, and listening to and obeying one's husband pleases Allah, the All Glorious, All-Merciful.
The third and fourth of the are:
Make sure that you smell good and look good; he should not smell anything but a pleasant smell from you.
The fifth and the sixth of them are:
Prepare his food on time, and keep quite when he is asleep, for raging hunger is like a burning flame, and disturbing his sleep will make him angry.
The seventh and eighth of the are:
Take care of his servants (or employees) and children, and take care of his wealth, for taking care of his wealth shows that you appreciate him, and taking care of his children and servants shows good management.
The ninth and tenth of the are:
Never disclose any of his secrets, and never disobey any of his orders, for if you disclose any of his secrets you will never feel safe from his possible betrayal, and if you disobey him, his heart will be filled with hatred towards you.
Be careful, O'my daughter, of showing joy in front of him when he is upset, and do not show sorrow in front of him when he is happy."
Treasure page 101 - Dr. Adl Al Qarni
